In the early morning of April 1 2023 this gracious, gentle and kind hearted lady passed away.
Phyllis knew that relationships are about connection and belonging, she made sure you felt like you were a valuable part of her life.
Phyllis was kind to everyone, she believed in unconditional love and support and gave this to her family and friends and pets.
Phyllis was born in Victoria BC to Eric and Kathleen Gale where she started her life on Langford Lake. Following her family in her late teens to California. Working in Radiology and generally having a pretty good time whenever possible.
I heard great stories about her growing up with her siblings and all the funny things that happened as well as the not so funny.
Later on in life with her second husband Jiri they moved to many places; Duncan, Millbay, Penticton and Kimberley where they spent many years until permanently moving back to the island. Phyllis worked as a Nursing unit assistant at RJH for many years and enjoyed her friendships there.
Mom made many longstanding friendships wherever she was and kept them.
Whether baking her gingerbread cookies, cinnamon loaves, or casseroles for those that needed some warmth at a difficult time in their lives she was a natural caregiver. Making you feel significant and heard was her specialty. Spending time with her grandchildren for overnights and driving them to and fro. They were her passion.
Having Parksville holidays by the sea, reading a good book or having a heart to heart with someone who needed her. Phyllis loved her neighbours in Royal Oak, visiting on her walks with Cocoa then Zoey.
Phyllis believed simple pleasures to be a healthy refuge in a complex world.
Predeceased by her son Eric Budgell in 1990 who she courageously lived without.
Also, her dear friend and sister in law Kathy Gale, oldest school friend Connie Lamont and friend Gayle Butler from Kimberley.
Left to mourn her is her husband of 47 years Jiri Hubacek, daughter Roslyn Thomas), grandchildren Liam (Megan) Phoebe (Dylan) great grandchildren, Juno and Minka.
Her devoted brother Dave, (Julie) brother Mike (Regina) as well as sisters Ann and Lorilee (Ruda).
Phyllis shared a close bond with her niece Susie who was there to help and cut her hair in long term care. Much loved nieces; Michele and Sharon, Leslie, Laurie and many more not named here.
“Her absence is like the sky spread over everything”
A celebration of Phyllis’s life will be held in the Sequoia Centre at McCall Gardens, 4665 Falaise Drive, Victoria, BC on Friday, April 14, 2023 at 10:00 am. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to Phyllis’s charity of choice The Firefighters Burn Fund in Victoria BC. http://firefightersburnfundvictoria.ca/
Condolences may be offered to the family below.
McCall Gardens
www.mccallgardens.com
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Derek Butler
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Laura Bale Jiri, Roz and all the family – from myself and the girls we send you all our love. Phyllis was such a kind and loving lady – the time we had had with you all here in Kimberley was special. Even though many years have passed, it left us with great memories.
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Heather Peterson This, dear, fun, endearing little lady, will be cherished and thought up for many years, and I will always carry her in my heart. I remember Phyllis fondly. She was a good, kind, soul. My heart and condolences. Go out to family.
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Ann Freer My dearest sister you will be missed always. Love Ann
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Lexa Daniells Lexa
Phyllis was a kind person and a great neighbor! have not seen her for a few years but always thought about her especially when I listen to Elvis records as I know she liked him .
She loved her family and my deepest sympathies go out to all of them.Love
Lexa
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Johanna & Jan Hubacek We send our deepest condolences to Jiri, Roselyn & their families.
We know for certain that we never lose the people we love dearly, even to death. They continue to participate in every act, thought & decision we make. Their love leave indelible imprint in our memories.
We find comfort in knowing that our lives have been enriched by having shared their deepest love.
Sending prayers, strength & much love.
Johanna and Jan Hubacek
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Jan M Waldram Phyllis, June & I Jan; 3 girls born to 3 sisters all in the same year, so we kidded one another A LOT through the years. We had a fabulous/awesome upbringing altogether as cousins. Years we will treasure our whole lives. It was a childhood that was superb & awesome.
It is with sadness & love I send condolences to Phyllis’s family. May she rest in peace now.
Jan Waldram
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Binder Parmar Roz and family. I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you a big hug. May your mom rest in peace
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Elsje Lowe So sorry for your and your family’s loss. Take care of each other.
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Ann Mcclung So sorry for your loss Roslyn, as you and Eric were the Anson st. Children your mother and I enjoyed many days together. Always kept in touch with warm memories and cards over the years. She will be sadly missed but always remember her warmth as a true friend My condolences to you all. Ann Mcclung and family.
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Lynne and Mike Sweet, little, Phyllis. What a delightful and kind lady she was. She has been missed in our neighbourhood for a few years now; but not forgotten. Phyllis was fun, loved to share her baking, and loved to share her stories. She was a good friend and adored her family. We are very saddened to hear of her passing,
Lynne and Mike
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Lindy Batchelor This is the softest obituary I’ve ever read. I didn’t meet your mom Roz but feel like I know her through you. The graciousness of your mom best describes you Roz.
RIP dearest mother and grandmother.
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Adem kekik Grandma, I only saw you in the photo, but you were born inside me like the sun. people walking in your light are helping us a lot now. I am grateful. I will always love you.
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Sharon Gale I am deeply saddened losing my Auntie! She was there to pick up many of my pieces after my Mom passed. We would have long, late evening conversations; with her words of affirmation and support I was able to get some sleep and move forward the next day. Feeling sad for many years on my birth date, she would always brighten my world with her thoughtful cards, gestures and gifts. She would make a spaghetti meal and cookies; call me to come over or I would take some to go. Being all alone, the simplest gestures go a long way when you are grieving and needing to feel more love. She always had nice things to say and never had a bad word about anyone! She understood people and the many different view points and perspectives there could be. This made her someone you could trust as she loved unconditionally. I really enjoyed all the real life events she would tell me about my Mom and when they worked together as secretaries for the government. They sure had fun going for breaks and out to lunch together. I am grateful for my Aunt introducing my Mom to my Dad! She is the reason I am in this world (tee hee) That was my Auntie Phyllis, she was great at making me smile, laugh and feel loved so very deeply. We are all going to miss you so very much.
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Art and Pat Weiss Dear Jiri and Roz,
We are saddened at the loss of your dear wife and mother. We have many fond memories of past get togethers. Our sincere condolences. We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.
Love Art and Pat Weiss
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Connie My dream auntie that i never had the privilege to know..she would have been right up my alley as a person that i would have cherished… i will be at the service in thought and spirit
She was like a mother to me, Eric and I would get in trouble and she would give us hell. I will always remember the fun times with Phyllis, Roz, Jiri and Eric. What a great lady!